There is no perfect parent.

And there is no perfect child.

We all have different personalities, needs, abilities, hopes, and dreams.

The only dependable truths are that everyone is unique and that as soon as you think you’ve figured them out, they change.

 

A moment of quiet on the flight to Florida

After…

Running to target because we were inexplicably missing an entire suitcase and couldn’t pack everything we needed.

Then, after returning one rental car to the wrong airport and the other car to the wrong rental company, we tried to get three carts of bags, six backpacks, two guitars, four kids, and a large stuffed dinosaur onto the shuttle back to the airport.

However, everyone squished on ahead of us so we had to pull everything back off that shuttle and wait for the next shuttle.

Sweating (literally and figuratively) at the check in counter, 47 minutes before our departure time, we quickly shoved books from one bag to another until each bag was under 50lbs.

Thank you nice American Airlines agent!

Then, we ran about three blocks to the TSA line, slid right through no problema, then ran to our gate which was back the other direction about six blocks.

Literally the last ones on the plane and I was so happy I’d impulsively thrown a few sandwiches into my Target cart that morning.

Kids were starving and I was ready to celebrate with a glass of airline champagne!

Whew. Let’s please not do that again.

 

Do you ever feel like a day without crying, yelling or eating an entire tray of brownies is considered winning? 

This completely makes sense as a parent of an infant! If you don’t put your baby’s needs before your own for the first several months of their lives, they will not survive!

The trick is this: Figure out how and when it’s healthy to start moving that percentage of sacrifice from 100% to 90% to 80% and so on.

If you’re still in this stage of parenthood, here are some tips:

  1. Get More Sleep –Instead of that last 20 minutes before bed on your phone, TV or computer, turn it off, say three things you’re thankful for and go to sleep. Get ahold of a sound machine, blackout curtains, bedtime meditation apps, and have the kids draw a no-entry sign for your bedroom door.

  2. Spend time with other supportive women –In person is best. Call, text, email, get a neighbor to go on a quick walk with you, make friends at the park, market or anywhere. Believe me, many moms out there are just as desperate for social connection

  3. Get a Hug –Ask a loved one for a 7-second hug once a day. Research shows us that women need physical, non-romantic touch. And no, your 4-year-old dragging himself along the floor attached to your leg does not count.

  4. Get Words of Appreciation – The secret to this one is a bit counter-intuitive, but just try it anyway. Give genuine words of appreciation to those you’d most like to hear back from, without any expectation of return, every day. Even if you’re super irritated and resentful of everyone, you can find something small to compliment.

You might just see some magical results…

 

Working on my book this week in Tamarindo, Costa Rica!

 

#PanaceadelasMontanas

#Gratefullife

 

How to Get More Sleep:

Instead of that last 20 minutes before bed on your phone, TV or computer, turn it off, say three things you’re thankful for and go to sleep!

Get ahold of a sound machine, blackout curtains, bedtime meditation app, and have the kids draw a no-entry sign for your bedroom door.

Our rule:

Unless you’re bleeding, or someone’s not breathing,

it’s not an emergency worthy of waking up mom.

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Drumroll Please….  I just signed on with Morgan James Publishing to publish my book!

I’m beyond thrilled to be working with them and so grateful they want to publish my work.

Special thanks to writing coach and mentor Dan Janal and acquisitions editor Terry Whalin.

 

 

 

Yesterday afternoon, while Jaimie took the kids out for a bike ride to the local comic book shop, this happened.

I meditated a bit first… which helped me to mentally let go of my household chore list, the drama going on between people I cannot help anyway, and the grief carried by several close friends and family members in recent months.

Then, I focused in on my intention for writing this book:

To inspire, encourage, entertain and ignite a fire in people who’ve found themselves feeling lost and bored in the daily grind of their lives.

I sat on the floor with some scissors and tape and went to town on the first two chapters…

#feelinggrateful

#madeahugemess

Purpose Pockets

Want to be happier, calmer and more efficient every day?

A pocket of time could be a meeting at work, soccer practice with the kids, or dinner out with your spouse. Right before each time pocket, take just a few seconds and decide what you want.

For example: Tonight I want to have a fun dinner with my family, with no devices and lots of smiles and laughing.

Or: This morning before I leave for work, I want everything to go smoothly, calmly and efficiently.

Or: I want this phone call with my boss to be helpful, positive and result in a plan for next week’s priorities. 

It’s simple and shouldn’t take a lot of thought or preparation.

Go with your gut on this one. Just try it.

 

Charity Work for Kids

Join an event like this one with Hashtag Lunchbag… kids can spend the afternoon making lunches for homeless humans in a fun, safe atmosphere.

Click here to check them out

Need More Minutes in Your Day?

Try these MotherFKR steps:

  1. Make the time

  2. Find the tools 

  3. Keep it up to make a habit

  4. Remember to be grateful

Making the Time...

This is sometimes the HARDEST part, right? Writing out a “Stop Doing List” helped me magically create more time in my life:

Right now think of five things you do every day that waste a bunch of your time. For example, I replaced listening to talk radio in my car with listening to audio books.  I replaced Netflix before bed with meditating. I replaced reading news in the mornings (which just depressed me or enraged me) with a 6 minute zero-sweat work out. 

(“Stop Doing List” recommended by Jon Butcher’s LifeBook System)

Click here for LifeBook

Find Tools and Tricks…

When I want to start something new, here are some tricks I’ve used:

  • Gamify It – Author Vishen Lakhiani recommends making a game of it.  He tried to see if he could make enough money off his first business to fund one Starbucks coffee a day. Start small.

Check out Vishen’s website here

  • 100th Birthday Speech – Consultant Marcia Wieder recommends writing out the speech you’ll give at your 100th birthday party. This is an awesome way to hone in on what is really important to you.

Then, notice how much of your day is spent doing something that’ll make that speech really true.

Check out Marcia’s website here

  • Parkinson’s Law – Writer Tim Ferriss recommends giving yourself a slightly impossible deadline, then making a commitment to someone else who’ll help you to keep it.

Check out Tim’s 4-Hour Workweek Secrets here

Make it a Habit…

  • Do it first thing in the morning 

  • Prep the stage (find your running shoes the night before, put the juicer on the counter, etc)

  • Start small (give yourself a real chance to succeed, by starting small and minimizing the chance for excuses and never-ending delays)

Be Grateful…

  • Feel it, say it out loud, or even sing it. “I’m so damn thankful I’m doing this!”

 

Books I loved in 2017

Title

Author

Category

My Rating

 

 

 

Shonda Rhimes

memior

4


Tony Hsieh

business

5

Jim Collins

business

3

Tim Ferriss

business

5

Steven Kotler

business

5

Cal Newport

business

3

Steven Pressfield

creativity

5

Austin Kleon

creativity

4

J.J. Virgin

health

3

Bernie Siegel

health

3

Dave Asprey

health

5

Order this on Amazon

Dale Carnegie

life

10

Napoleon Hill

life

10

Ariel Levy

memoir

5

Tim Ferriss

life

10

Tim Ferriss

life

5

Roxane Gay

memoir

4

Anna Kendrick

memoir

4

Jesse Itzler

memoir

5

Tony Robbins

money

5

Order this on Amazon

Mark Victor Hansen

money

5

Berit Brogaard

neuroscience

10

Order this on Amazon

Adele Faber

parenting

10

Vishen Lakhiani

self development

5

 

Joe Vitale

self development

4

Gabrielle Bernstein

self development

3

David Schwartz

self development

4

Steven Kotler

self development

5

Tony Robbins

self development

5

Dan Harris

self development

5

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

self development

3

Arianna Huffington

self development

3

Marcia Wieder

self development

5

Mark Manson

self development

3

Order this on Amazon

Joe Dispenza

self development

5

Jen Sincero

self development

4

Gary John Bishop

self development

4

Bill Burnett

self development

3


Esther Hicks

self development

4

 

Amanda Enayati

self development

5

                                    

Mary Spio

self development

5

James Altucher

self development

4

Deepak Chopra

self development

5

Randy Paterson, PhD

self development

5

Mike Dooley

spiritual

4

Jose Silva

spiritual

5

Esther Hicks

spiritual

5

Paramhansa Yogananda

spiritual

5

 

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